Wed Nov 13, 6:30-9: "Sandpaper Moments" - w/ author Martha Metzler
"Sandpaper Moments"
Wed Nov 13, 6:30-9pm
Canteen Market and Bistro, 411 West 4th Street
Enjoy wine, a light dinner, and listen to Martha speak about the book!
"Sandpaper Moments" Ticket Link
Questions/Topics for Martha to cover
(Note tix are $45 for admission/wine/light dinner or $60 also includes a book at a discount! Tix are limited!! Books will also be available for purchase at the event!)
“Sandpaper Moments” Event Details:
Since quite a few folks are purchasing the book for the event with their ticket and will not have read it by 11/13, I wanted to share a few book highlights and prepare you for Martha's talk that night! I have had a few people ask if this is a parenting book - while there is one incredible chapter on parenting, the rest of the book is entirely for the reader - she helps us navigate anxiety, uncertainty, overwhelm, overscheduling, friendship, comparison, burn out, phone attachment ... and she helps us grow and find purpose in all of this madness. Not a small task, and she does it so beautifully. 🩷
Sneak peek into the book... (your very own movie trailer! 😄)
Chapter 3 "I'm so overwhelmed" - "My brain can feel like a computer with 25 tabs open." "I am just not able to human today." She discusses how incredibly pervasive it is to feel overwhelmed in today's world. She encourages us to "Ride the wave. Ride the wave of overwhelm." Literally close your eyes and imagine yourself floating on your back and riding the wave, not fighting it. "Optimism is felt, but hope is chosen." "Hope means choosing to believe the overwhelming feeling will pass." "Respond, don't react" (all this makes much more sense with her full description, this is just food for thought!)
Chapter 4 "I'm running out of time" - "Boundaries are not meant to be reactive. They are not meant to lead us to disconnection. Boundaries are meant to protect what is good." She maps out her own exercise of listing her priorities/the "good" in her life worth protecting, as well as listing what was currently on her schedule/things on her plate. Next she describes the hard but necessary process of consolidating work/adjusting her life to better reflect her priorities - and encourages us to engage in this same exercise if we are struggling with lack of boundaries/lack of time. "Just because I have disappointed someone doesn't mean I'm making the wrong decision. This boundary is protecting my heart." "Your time, your heart, your people; they are worthy of being protected."
Chapter 8 "This wasn't what I expected. Now what.?" - "When we release the people in our lives from the expectation for them to be anyone other than who they are, we make space for connecting with them just as they are." (On a personal note, I can't stop thinking about this concept and have found it to be deeply powerful when I reflect on several relationships in my life.) "In its truest form, letting go of expectations is about trust and release of control. It's about having a radical acceptance of things as they are. It's about honoring what is outside of your circle of control and grounding yourself in what is inside your circle of control." When in conflict with someone who's just being themselves, she suggests the mantra - "It's not personal, it's personality."
Bio: Martha B. Metzler, a licensed psychotherapist, brings over a decade of experience to her private practice in NC. She is a counselor, speaker, member of the Michael Phelps Foundation Advisory Council, and a dedicated advocate for mental health in her community. She loves weaving truth and humor into her ministry of counseling and speaking engagements. Martha lives here in Winston with her husband and three delightful (sometimes feral) boys. She is surrounded by an amazing community of friends who hold the space for vulnerability and an infinite love of all things chips and salsa… extra salt.
There is so much to discuss and reflect on from this powerful read.
Look forward to seeing many of you in November!!!
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"The Cycle of Renewal" ***Date TBD ~ Winter ‘25***
As many of you know, I have been on a journey becoming a certified leadership/career coach over the past year and am really excited to share the concept of "The Cycle of Renewal" which has had a profound impact on me. This concept (described by Frederich and Pam Hudson from the Hudson Institute of Coaching) outlines our life chapters and life transitions. We are continually moving around this circle in a clockwise fashion - see the arrows in the diagram. You are likely spread around the circle in your various roles but you, yourself - the conscious center of the person living your life - is at predominantly one place in the cycle. I'd love to share this concept with you and explain why it has been so powerful for me. In a nutshell, without this framework I may have assumed I was having a midlife crisis (if this cliché is still a term!) That evening I will also encourage you to think about where you are on the cycle, and we will discuss what is important and most helpful for a person at each phase (we need very different things depending on where we are). I also hope to share some other concepts related to the adult journey, immunity to change, and shifting priorities as we age and grow. Hope you will attend!